I’m starting to realize (with some help from friends) that I’ve been kinda preachy as of late; I’m telling everyone what’s best for them in terms of working (work less, and get paid for it), relaxing (relax more) and eating (eat what you want, and don’t “settle” for mediocre).
You know what? I’m okay with this.
I fully accept that the kind of stuff I’ve been advocating (via blog posts and Facebook updates, mainly) can be annoying. If it’s annoying, please don’t read it or spend any time thinking about it. My goal isn’t to annoy, and I’m under no delusion that everyone wants my advice, or that it’s necessarily right for everyone. But I do want to share what works for me, ’cause I love you, internets.
Yes, even you.
So if you’re already annoyed, or think you might be, turn around. I won’t be offended in the least. For everyone else, a recap of what’s been on my mind lately:
Work and Relaxing: Too many of us work to much. Even worse, many of us work on our time off out of some odd sense of duty/obligation to our employers. And the worst of all, we’re not all getting paid for this work. People are willingly taking a pay cut (working for free effectively cuts your pay per hour) because they think they’re supposed to, or because “everyone does”.
No! Not everyone does!
If you don’t like the word “lazy”, choose a synonym, but I’m here to advocate being lazy, on your time. Do your job and do it awesomely, but when you’re off work, be off work. Be off work as hardcore as possible. Do it with all your might. I don’t care if you’re parasailing or hobbying or pontificating or sitting your beautiful lazy butt on the couch reading or watching television: take back your time. It’s yours, not theirs. You’re a big boy or girl, you’ve been in the workforce for many years. Stand up and tell your boss that you’re working your hours, then you’re going home. Sure, sometimes you’ll have to work a little overtime to finish something. But make sure you’re paid for it. And make sure it’s absolutely “sometimes”. Otherwise, you’re getting screwed, and you’re the only person responsible for that.
Food: I think about food a lot. A whole lot. Because it’s awesome, you guys. I’m lucky to have a wonderful relationship with food – I enjoy eating it, I enjoy manipulating it to get something awesome out of it, and I don’t have any guilt about what I eat. I know it’s not as simple as that for everyone, but in the very least, you can like what you’re doing while you’re doing it. This should be true for most aspects of your life, but the road toward happy coexistence with food (if you’re not there already) is not hating it. You and food aren’t going your separate ways, so you might as well get along.
And once you’ve happily reached that point (it’s different for everyone, and that’s cool), you should work your way toward loving food, and never settling for something less. Stuff your face, but it do it with something awesome. If you’re counting, save your calories for the best stuff, even if it means eating less. If you’re not counting, don’t fill up on bad bread: fill up on some amazin’ fuckin’ fresh-baked loaf of awesome.
I have a lot more advice to give (because I’m full of it), and I hope you can stick around and annoy me a little bit, too. We’re all in this together, and we might as well get the very most out of it.